Session 7: Limits Through Rewards
Summary Introduction
- The Purpose
- Review the home activity on effective commands
- Understand how rewards affect both anchors of love and limits
- Understand major concepts, so parents can build more structure and positive family interactions.
- Apply rewards through home activity. As parents are deliberate in their application of rewards, it will increase appropriate structure and positive family interactions.
- Enjoy attending group and interacting with one another. Group interaction and disclosure are the glue that holds the program together.
- The Major points are:
- Rewards can be used to change behavior
- Parents can use social, tangible, or experience rewards
- Rewards can enhance limits and love
- Rewards can create positive patterns in families
- How to use rewards appropriately
- Prior to beginning this session:
- Bring an example of a simple tangible rewards system
- Review the checklist of supplies and preparation.
Session Script
- Getting Started
- Starting Session, welcome parents
- Today's agenda, Introduce the agenda to parents
- Skills Refining
- Review home activity on effective commands
- what went well, what didn't go well, what were the most effective commands, review what they remember about praise and attention, and past skills that they have learned.
- Skills Learning and Practice
- Rewards can be used to foster both limit setting and love
- how rewards are part of limit setting
- where there is appropriate structure the home is more calm.
- rewards encourage children to follow the limits
- how rewards create love
- rewards are better than punishments
- rewards provide structure and love
- social rewards are the best, they are free and given often, smiling, praising.
- rewards can create positive patterns in families
- positive reaction from parents usually get positive reaction from children. Everyone is happy:)
- What are rewards/kinds of rewards?
- Tangible rewards
- can be touched and physically felt: treats, stickers, cards, toys, or money
- Experience rewards
- more commonly called privileges, these can be experiences or opportunities to do something pleasurable, alone or with others, including the parent.
- Social rewards
- attention and praise
- Giving the child something they want (positive reinforcement)
- Taking away something the child doesn't want (negative reinforcement or "relief")
- How to use rewards
- Be clear and explicit about what the child is being rewarded for.
- what is a reward for one child is not a reward for others
- The difference between rewards vs a bribe is that rewards work best when they are explained in advance of the situation. A bribe is when you give a reward once a child is misbehaving.
- Skills at home
- Home activity on using rewards
- In session have parents decide on a behavior they want to reward this week and how they will reward it. Lead a discussion about what these rewards will be, and help group members to apply the principles learned in this session. Have them write these down. You can use handout 7.2 "home activity on using rewards"
- Encourage parents to review the skills of praise and attention this week, which fit in nicely with the idea of social rewards.
- Points to remember
- Remember rewards affect both anchors of love and limits
- proper use of rewards can build more structure and positive family interactions
- There is a big difference between rewards and bribes. Bribes "pay off" a child before he or she complies with the request or command. Rewards are given after the child responds appropriately.
- Rewards can create positive patterns in families
- Session Evaluation
Session Handouts
- Session Outline
- Home Activity on Using rewards
- Points to remember
- Session Evaluation
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