LLL Session 5: Values Help Connect and Set Limits

To start out you review everything from the previous week.  That should be pretty straight forward.  You can understand the course of the session simply by reading the questions that they ask.  It isn't super complex.

1. The three anchors and family values
1. Values anchor our lives when things get tough.  The 3 anchors (love, limits, and latitude) will all be affected by the values of your family. 
2. How parents can teach values to their children
1. Verbal Teaching
1. "In your experience, how well does telling = teaching = behavior change work for you and your children?"
1. Telling them doesn't really work, or does so in only a weak way.
2. "Why do you think simply telling or preaching our values to children is not very effective?"
1. There are better ways to teach values rather than simply just saying them.
3. "What ways of talking about values do you think are more effective than simply telling children or lecturing them?"
2. Teaching Through Example
1. This is definitely a stronger way.
2. "As parents, why do you think it is so important for our actions to demonstrate the values we talk about and expect our children to live by?"
1. This is an obvious question.  Practice what you preach.  I keep thinking of the quote "Sorry I can't hear what you're saying because of how loud your actions are." or something to that effect.
3. "If parents want children to love and respect them, the parents will..."
4. "What are your children really learning from you?  Is this different from what you intend for them to learn?"
5. "Did any of you have experiences as teenagers where the way your parents lived and behaved either led you to embrace or reject the things they were trying to teach you?"
6. "What lessons can you learn from your reactions to your parents' teaching methods to help you with your own children?"
3. Teaching Through Experiences
1. With this method you are creating experiences to help your children to learn a value by having a chance to practice it.  They engage and practice the value alongside their parents
2. "Why do you think experiences are such a powerful method of teaching values?"
3. "What are some things you have personally learned from experience that you doubt you could have learned another way?"
1. Generosity
2. Hard Work
3. Honesty
4. "What kinds of experiences for teaching have worked well for you and your children?"
5. "What mistakes have you made with trying to teach through experience?"
3. using values to help determine where to set limits
1. The values and limits of your family should be principally based.